So...I saw this bumper sticker on facebook today that said life isn't about finding yourself it is about creating yourself. I'm going to go ahead and disagree with that one. I think that a person has to figure out what is most important to them and what they are passionate about...typically one does not just decide one day to create a new version of himself. And usually if they do...it either does not work out or they are doing it in a sense of losing 200 lbs and creating a more energetic self..which is different.
I also made the determination that I have not quite figured out where I fit in. I never have fit in anywhere my entire life...growing up I didn't fit in with the kids I went to school with or the girls I did gymnastics with, or the ones I did cheerleading with...and now I don't fit in with the people I go to school with nor do I fit in with those I socialize or the really the people I go to church with. I feel it is important to be different and not the same as the people around you..but I also think you should enjoy the same activities and have more than one thing in common.
I don't know...I guess I'm still searching for something, whether it be me, the perfect guy, or the perfect friend. Of course..I'm not sure if any of those exist to be found.
2 comments:
Hi! Allow me to congratulate you; I absolutely love your blog. I feel very identified with what you write. It's sort of going through my own thoughts in the previous years of my life.
I, too, struggled fitting in, and was somewhat proud of it. But today, I've realized so many things that I just didn't see before. I realized that life is a process of growth, and mine has worked all for the better.
I doubted my own thinking and my own reasoning regarding how I didn't want to be like everyone else just because they were doing/being it; and even though many people seemed cool just going with the flow-and I kind of envied them for that-now I'm just so much happier than they are! and I know me! I'm so glad I know me and I know what I want, and that I'm happy just traveling through time to get there.
Life IS creating yourself. It is because when you realize what you want and who you truly are, then you must make everything in your life in agreement with your nature. You are naturally many things, many contradictory things, good and bad are all in you. So you must make a decision that the good unique things about you become more evident and real than the bad ones. And it's in creating the place where we DO fit in that we find out who we really are.
I hope this gives you another view on life! I'd love to know your take on this. Write me back at this blog below. I have several, but they're private:
http://greatmoviesofmine.blogspot.com
By the way, my name is Anel & I'm 22. Some people say I think like a old lady, LOL!
Yeah, I understand. For a while it seems like one is going to be alone forever. You spend your life wishing there was someone that understood you completely. I've been there. But I've also learned to enjoy my own company, and it feels so good when it's just me and God. Then, when I get out there, and I can share my life with people that may be different than me but happy with their lives, it's just great! I've learned that all that I really needed were two things: I needed God in my life & I needed the right guy that loved me just as I loved him. I've already accomplished the first one, and now I'm waiting on the second one.
Everyone naturally needs the presence of God in their lives. I thought I didn't needed, but when I found Him I just couldn't let go off Him. And then I think pretty much every girl dreams of finding that perfect guy that is perfect just for us. We were not born to be alone. We need a partner, someone to share our lives with. But I realized that I would not find that guy until I got myself together. So I began to work on me, and with the help of God figure out where all of my insecurities and doubts were coming from. Most times we know what we want in life, but we don't know how to get there. And now I'm so glad that I know how to get there.
Everyone has to find their own way because everyone is different. But if you want it real bad, then you'll work on it real bad. You can't imagine all the stuff I've gone through to get myself to this place. But I'm so happy and so ready to live at my maximum capacity.
BTW, I learned that the prize is not the goal, but all the lessons learned throughout the journey of getting there. You will not enjoy life until you learn from everything that happens to you and all of the mistakes you make, because aftwerwards is when you can really enjoy the good stuff. Beleive me, there's good things that I've missed out on because I was not ready. Can you imagine the tragedy of letting that great guy walk away, just because we were not paying attention to life?
There's always something valuable happening in our lives. We just have to pay attention.
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